A Few Friday Fragments…

Half-Past Kissin' Time

What a week it’s been!  It’s been the most ‘normal’ week we’ve had in two weeks, but, still, it’s been far from a normal week.  It’s been one of those weeks when it’s just plain hard to keep calm!

For instance, on Monday, I received a phone call telling me that our daughter-in-law, Jennifer, was in the hospital because she was having labor pains while at work!  For two days, amidst the back and forth phone calls, tracking Jennifer’s progress, I stayed busy writing thank you notes concerning Ed’s mom’s funeral. I’m happy to report, the thank you notes are finished, and Jennifer is home from the hospital.  Life goes on, and God is good.

Jennifer spent two days and nights in the hospital, where she received medication to stop her contractions. She also received steroid shots to help the baby’s lungs develop.  Jennifer was released on Wednesday afternoon, but will remain under the  frequent, watchful eye of her doctor.  Hopefully, baby Evan will stay put for a little while longer.  Jennifer has just under seven weeks to go until her due date, but I don’t expect her to go that long.  However, every day that baby Evan stays put, will make it easier for him at birth.  According to the sonograms, he weighs in at 4 1/2 pounds right now.

On Monday I rode with Ed to take care of some of his mom’s business.  He had to go out-of-town to see about stopping her VA checks, since she recently passed away.  Tuesday was followed by more out-of-town business.  So many ‘loose ends’ to tie up, following a death, and we’re just getting started!  Sigh. Ed and I keep telling ourselves, “One day at a time…”

On Tuesday I, also, went to visit our youngest grandson, Chase, at his house.  For some strange reason, Chase has begun to associate me with being separated from his mother, which he dislikes very much!  The sight of me brings him to tears!  I’m determined to over come this stigma by visiting with him at his house–at times when I’m not needed to babysit!

After three days of cloudiness, mixed with a little rain, the sun is shining here this morning.  It’s very cool outside, a typical fall morning, which I’m glad to see.  I already have my fall decorations out, soon I’ll be getting ready to shift into Halloween mode.  My grandchildren enjoy those decorations!

Speaking of grandchildren, Caden, our oldest grandson, who’s four, is still adjusting to pre-K.  He’s been finding the separation from his mom a little difficult, but he’s working on it, and doing better. Granddaughter, Madison, who is almost seven, is doing well with first grade home-schooling.  I’m amazed at how much she has learned in just six weeks!  She writes beautifully, in cursive, and has memorized many math facts, as well as an entire (long chapter) passage from the Bible!  She reads very well, too.  Oh, to have the mind of a six-year-old again!

Today I’m going to town to run a few errands, stop by the cemetery, then come home and try to catch up on a little housework.  I’m running so far behind, I’ll never catch up!  There just aren’t enough hours in a day…  I keep telling myself, “One day at a time, Kathy. One day at a time…”

Have a great weekend, everyone!  Thanks to Mrs. 4444 for hosting ‘Friday Fragments’ over at halfpastkissintime.com

Published in: on September 27, 2013 at 8:14 am  Comments (9)  
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Once A Mother, Always A Mother…

I still remember many of the talks I used to have with my mother-in-law.  She’d tell me stories about her children when they were growing up, and she’d tell me how much she still loved each one of them, even though they were all grown up.  She’d tell me how, one day, my children would step on my toes while they were little,  then, later, step on my heart after they were grown.  At the time, I couldn’t fathom what she was talking about, but over the years, I learned exactly what she meant.

When our youngest, a son, decided to move away, last year, I finally understood how mine and Ed’s parents must have felt when we married and moved away.  Ed and I were young and in love, and we quickly left our parents behind in a quest to make a new life for ourselves!  We didn’t have a telephone for many months, so our parents rarely heard from us between our visits home.  Somehow, it never occurred to either of us that our parents were missing us, and would have loved a phone call!  It’s no wonder, that five years later,  Ed’s daddy offered us our choice of land on the family farm, if only we’d move back home, which we did!

Just last month, when Ed came down with the shingles, and had cataract surgery, too, he wasn’t able to see his mom for several days.  I went to see her, and she was so worried about Ed!  There she was, ailing herself, but she was concerned for her son, and wanted to help.  I remember her saying, “If he needs any money or anything, just let me know.”  This warmed my heart, when she said this, knowing that Ed had been taking care of his mother’s financial affairs for the past three years.  Once a mother, always a mother.

Our oldest child, our only daughter, has been a mother for almost seven years.  Our oldest son, has been a father for nearly five.  Neither are the same people they were, prior to becoming parents.  I’ve watched both continue to grow and mature, as they care for and teach their children the things they’ll need to know to make them smart, productive adults.  I watch my children struggle and sacrifice to give their children what they need or want–just like Ed and I did, and our parents before us.  The circle of life continues.

Soon, our youngest, will become a father himself.  He has no idea of the ways his life is about to change, but he’ll learn, and I have no doubts that he’ll be a wonderful father, too.  He has a lot of his father’s ways.

Last night, our phone rang.  It was our youngest, Brad.  He was calling to say that his wife, Jennifer, has been admitted to the hospital, for observation.  She, apparently, is having some pre-term labor.  While she’d been at work, she’d started feeling bad, and ended up going to her doctor’s office.  The mother in me immediately wanted to get in the car and drive to the hospital to be with my children!  Instead, I called back with some unsolicited parental advice for our son–“Stay close to Jennifer tonight, she needs you.”  Giving unsolicited advice is what mothers sometimes do.

Hopefully, baby Evan will stay put a little while longer.  He still has seven more weeks until his due date.  Jennifer is receiving medication to help ease those labor pains, as well as steroid shots to help baby Evan’s lungs develop.  No matter what happens, it won’t be much longer until Brad and Jennifer’s lives take a new turn!  I’m looking forward to witnessing their journey as parents–a journey that will last until they take their last breath, just like Ed’s mom’s did.

Published in: on September 24, 2013 at 7:52 am  Comments (4)  
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Happy Monday…

Acting Balanced

I hope it’s a happy Monday for you, I’m still trying to decide about mine.  I’m thankful that Thanksgiving came early this year, so I’ll have more time to get ready for Christmas– ’cause it’s slow going here.  I’m getting ready, but it’s at a slower pace than usual–probably because I keep taking so many blogging breaks!  Speaking of blogging–I think it’s time to link up with “Monday Quiz About Me”!

1. When was the last time you had your picture taken with Santa?

Actually, I had my picture taken with Santa (at Bass Pro Shop) last Christmas–along with my daughter and granddaughter.  We thought it would be neat to have a “3 generations” picture made with Santa.  I’m the lady in the red top.

12-20-2011 1;50;18 PM 3 generations with Santa

2. Which do you prefer – ham or turkey?

I prefer turkey, probably because we don’t have it very often.

3. Do you give more to charity in December?

Sometimes, but not always, it just depends on what’s going on.

4. Which US City would you most like to visit and why?

I think I’d most like to visit Miami, Florida, because of its close proximity to the Florida Keys.

My question for you:

5.  Do you enjoy watching Christmas movies?  If so, what’s your favorite one?  

I love watching Hallmark Christmas movies!  There are so many good ones, I can’t pick a favorite, but among my favorites are “The Christmas Card”, “The Christmas Heart”, “Call Me Mrs. Miracle”,  and “A Christmas Visitor”.  I also enjoy watching National Lampoon’s “Christmas Vacation” and “A Christmas Story” each year, as well.

Weekend Recap:

‘Tis the season, and it was a busy weekend around our house!  As I mentioned, I’m still working on getting up our Christmas decorations.  Ed and I finished putting up the outside decorations on Friday afternoon, but I’m still working on the inside decorations.  We had a lot of company on Saturday, then some shopping to do on Sunday, so the inside decorations have had to wait.  Today’s top priority is finishing the tree in the living room.  Wish me luck!

I stayed home all day on Friday, waiting for the delivery man to bring our new television.  He was supposed to arrive between twelve and five, but it was after six when he finally called for directions.  By then, I’d given up hope.

On Saturday, when Ed unpacked the television, we discovered we didn’t get any papers with our new television–no packing slip, no invoice, or any paper that we could  use to purchase an extended warranty.  Our plight didn’t stop there…  We discovered our brand new  replacement television already has “issues”!  It has what appears to be two “smudges” right in the middle of the screen, but they don’t wipe off.  Occasionally, the picture also turns a bit blurry for just a few seconds.  Can you believe this?  I talked with the warranty company last night, and they will be arranging repair service next week, while I wait to receive an invoice (for the television) from them.  Here we go again…Can you believe it?

Tomorrow I will also be starting yet another treatment plan for the yeast overgrowth that’s still invading my body.  After drinking the glucose for Thursday’s test, I’ve been in even more misery. (Sugar consumption increases yeast growth.)   The newest cream from the doctor hasn’t helped either.  I’m now moving into month six of this problem, with the yeast spreading again.

While my yeast problem is aggravating, persistent, and a little threatening, our daughter-in-law, Jennifer, is dealing with a much larger issue.  Her six months GYN check up, on Friday, didn’t go well.  Once again, I am asking for prayers on Jennifer’s behalf.  She has to wait a few days to learn more results.  Your prayers would be deeply appreciated.

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It’s Good To Know That You’ve Got A Friend…

I’m overwhelmed by the amount of  love and support being sent our way concerning Jennifer’s ordeal.  Brad and Jennifer both read my blog (and comments) so I’m sure they can feel your love and support as well.  Thank you so much for your prayers and kind comments.  You are all a special group of people and I treasure your friendship more than I can say.

I began this blog over two years ago as a way to record some of our  family’s history and my personal thoughts about different things.  I wanted to leave a bit of myself behind for my family to have one day after I’m gone.  I’ve always loved to keep journals, and blogging sounded like a fun way to journal.

I never dreamed I’d meet so many wonderful people while doing something that I love!  Whenever I read the blogs of my friends or read the comments that have been left on my blog, I feel like I’m spending time with  friends. I treasure time spent with friends.

One good thing about the “valleys” of life is they bring people closer together, and closer to God.  For that, I’m always grateful.  Our family has been through our share of “valleys”” over the years, and we always come out on the other side being stronger, better people.

I know that several of you out there in blogland are also traveling through some “valleys” at this point in your lives, too.  Just know,  I think of you often, and include you in my prayers, as well.  It’s my hope that you will feel my love and support just as strongly as I feel yours.

Speaking of  friends–I’m dedicating the following song to one of my dear blog friends (and personal friend) who has been going through some “valleys” of her own, but  is celebrating a birthday today!  Happy Birthday, Cindy!  I hope it’s a great one!

Ah…the seventies.  Those were the days, weren’t they?

Published in: on October 14, 2011 at 8:18 am  Comments (5)  
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Sometimes Life Just Sucks…

Just two short years ago Brad and Jennifer became a couple.  I still remember the night of their first date when Brad called from the movies to ask us some trivial question about something the two of them had been discussing on their date…Brad’s funny that way.  It was mid-October of 2009.

first Christmas together

Our family met Jennifer for the first time on the night of our Halloween party.  Yes, Jennifer met her future in-laws while we were dressed as bottles of ketchup and mustard–and yet she married Brad anyway!  Go figure…

Jennifer was finishing up her training to become a registered nurse back then, and I recall there was some controversy about an exit exam or something like that.  I don’t recall all of the details, but I do recall that Jennifer’s mama went to the university and butted heads with the officials there!  Whatever she said worked, and the problem got solved.  Hell hath no fury like a mom whose child has been wronged!

Brad and Jennifer spent their first Christmas as a couple, enjoying the holidays with both sets of parents.  Nobody knew then that  it would be the last Christmas for Jennifer’s mom.

Early in the following year, Jennifer’s mom suffered some kind of “spell” and ended up in the hospital.  In retrospect, her family now believes her heart had stopped beating while she slept, but somehow the heart managed to jump start itself again.  Denise spent several days in the hospital, having tests run, but was later discharged without any clear answers as to what happened or why.

In the meantime, Jennifer had her yearly pap smear done, only to discover that she had suspicious cells present.  She underwent a procedure,  in hopes that it would remove all of cancerous cells, but the cells were too extensive, and surgery would need to be performed.  Jennifer’s doctor referred her to an oncologist who referred her to another doctor who specializes in a new type of cervical cancer surgery.  Jennifer was only 23 at this time.

While Jennifer was waiting for her new, experimental cervical surgery to be scheduled and performed, her mother unexpectedly passed away in July of 2010.  Sometime during the wee hours of the morning, while she slept, Denise’s heart stopped beating again, refusing to restart this time.  She passed away on the day our entire family, including Brad and Jennifer, was planning to leave on vacation.

Jennifer and her mom...

In September of 2010, Jennifer traveled seven hours to North Carolina to have her special cervical cancer surgery.  The surgery was successful.  All cancer was removed.  Although, Jennifer lost her cervix, she was able to retain her ovaries and uterus due to this new procedure.  She had hopes of one day conceiving a child, although a pregnancy would be high risk due to her cervical surgery.

A couple of months after the surgery, Jennifer was rushed to the hospital with high fever and pain in her side.  She was admitted to the hospital and further tests showed an inflamed appendix plus a large abscess in her abdomen.  Abdominal surgery didn’t appear to be a viable option due to so much infection in the abdominal cavity(risk of spreading), so a drain was surgically inserted from Jennifer’s backside.  However, the drain was only left in place a day or so, then removed.  A tragic mistake that would come back to haunt Jennifer.

Jennifer was treated with mega doses of antibiotics and scheduled to see a surgeon at a later date about removal of her appendix.  A few weeks later, Jennifer spoke with a surgeon, who decided to leave her appendix alone.  Another decision that probably played a part in Jennifer’s future outcome.

Brad and Jennifer got married at the end of June, but several other things have happened along the way.  Over the past few months, since the initial flare up of her appendix, Jennifer has made several doctor visits–including  two more trips to the emergency room.  All of these events have  culminated in some distressing news for Jennifer.  On Tuesday of next week, Jennifer is scheduled to have more surgery to eliminate her problems.

Apparently, the infection from Jennifer’s appendix formed an abscess, that has remained inside of her abdominal cavity, and destroyed her right ovary, as well as both of her Fallopian tubes.  All of this damage will have to be surgically removed, along with the appendix–and anything else that the surgeon deems necessary once he gets a look inside.  This was not the outcome we were all hoping for two short years ago.

Life is funny.  We don’t always get what we want.  I try not to question God because I know that all things work together for good, but it doesn’t make some days any easier.  Sometimes life just plain sucks, and there have been plenty of those times for Jennifer during the past two years.

I admire Jennifer for her tenacity and ability to carry on.  Despite all of the things she’s endured during the past two years, she’s managed to plan a wedding, and hold down a nursing job with a grueling schedule.  It’s not unusual for her to pull 13  hour shifts, then make the drive home, which takes nearly 90 minutes.  She spends long days taking care of others, sometimes when she needs taking care of, as well.

I’m seeking your prayers on behalf of Jennifer,  as she prepares to undergo yet another surgery.  Life just seems so unfair sometimes, but we do what we must.

In addition to her surgery next week, Jennifer is dealing with another life-changing situation, as well.  Next month her daddy will be getting re-married.  This will be an adjustment for Jennifer’s entire family, but especially for Jennifer.  Life goes on, but sometimes it’s just difficult.  Jennifer had to pack up her mom’s things  last week.  Not an easy thing for her to do, I am sure.

If you send up prayers for Jennifer, please don’t forget about our son, Brad, too.  Sometimes it’s equally as tough on the spouse of the one who’s going through the trials of life…especially when there are so many.

Published in: on October 13, 2011 at 8:47 am  Comments (11)  
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